How to make Friends as an adult in your 20s
Updated: May 26
It seems so much easier to make friends as a kid, hey? Crazy. Well it doesn't have to be hard to make friends as an adult. Today I share my story and my best tips:
It was my first year university and I was rooming with another girl my height who also loves fashion and pink and having bubbly fun. Her name was Lindsay and she told me I was the sister she always wanted, and she was the best friend I always wanted. Someone so I could be friends with for the rest of my life and look back when we are older with our husbands and kids at our fun university days together.
That’s the dream for every girl going into university isn’t it?
However as the year went on our friendship seem to dwindle away. She found other friends who like to count calories with her and I was left there unable to participate in the conversation (because #boring). The following year she left university and the city without even telling me. That is when I knew for sure that our friendship was dead and it never meant as much to her as it did to me.
Then it was Dani my new forever friend. I stayed at her basement suite almost as often as I stayed in my dorm room. We went out partying, shared clothes, did bible study together, & both loved watching sports. She had such a special place in my heart. But she was busy with her boyfriend and I had other friends to fill my time. Until one day she gave me an ultimatum to big for me to take: her or my other friends. And that was the end of Dani and I. Sad but true. She also ended up moving away.
I gave up & became hopeless. Was I just not meant to find a sister to be my forever friend?
Now each girl I saw looked like another broken heart. A friendship that would only eventually end.
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^^ lol sorry couldn't think of anything at the time...
How to make friends
Make friends through friends you already have You can do this by doing a group event and telling your friends to invite some people. Or you can tell your friend "hey that girl seemed really cool, we should do something the three of us" or whatever.
Sit by somebody new at church This one is often overlooked because people don't want to leave their comfort zone.
Start interacting with people on Instagram and TikTok It seems like EVERYONE wants more/new friends -- especially on the internet. start slow and organically build up a relationship with other locals who you think you'd vibe with by commenting on their posts and responding to IG stories. If you see them reciprocating, then one day just say "screw it" and message them and see if they want to go for coffee or make some content together.
Join a life group or interest group This is a great way to find like-minded people! Cameron and I have loved getting to know the people in our life group and have done multiple lunches after church together and board game nights.
I hope this helped spark some inspiration and remind you that it really is so easy to make friends in your 20's, all you have to do is get out there and get out of your comfort zone!
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